I purchased Unglued: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Raw Emotions by Lysa TerKeurst for my Kindle before going into the hospital to have Benny. I finally got around to reading it last week. While reading such a book not even a month postpartum might be a bit optimistic, I have to say that I appreciate this practical-but-spiritual approach for dealing with the “raw emotions” the subtitle makes mention of. I don’t know much about Lysa TerKeurst because honestly, I’m not much of a “joiner” when it comes to going ga-ga over this person or that, even in Christian circles. I found her candor about her own “unglued’ moments very refreshing, though, as well as her take on making “imperfect progress.” Here’s TerKeurst’s explanation of imperfect progress:
There is a beautiful reality called imperfect progress. The day I realized the glorious hope of this kind of imperfect change is the day I gave myself permission to believe I really could be different.
So often when reading books like this (which I admittedly haven’t done in a long time) I end up feeling condemned rather than hopeful for change. This book left me feeling like change is something that can even happen for me, and given the volume of “unglued” moments I’ve had (usually with my children, let’s be honest), that’s remarkable. Not only do I feel hopeful, but on the flip side, I also feel like change is necessary. Hopeful about a necessary change? I’ll take it!
What even led me to read this book to begin with is that I have a love-hate relationship with my emotions, and honestly, lately it has been more of a hate-relationship. I feel things intensely, and that usually results in a rather intense reaction (or at least internalization) of whatever I’ve experienced. I feel like this is an issue that God has been dealing with me about, and yet it’s almost like I still don’t know where to go with it. I have too often felt like Proverbs 25:28 describes me to a T:
He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
I know I’m often like that broken down, wall-less city, but what do I do about it? TerKeurst offers Biblical insight into why we often lose our cool, and the simple fact is that sometimes it’s because we lack faith in believing that God is in control and working the situation out for our good and His glory. My own personal Achilles heel is when I’m stressed out, and that’s where I’m living most days lately. This book offered me hope that even in the middle of homeschooling and raising four children, I don’t have to stay where I am. I don’t have to be a broken down city.
The biggest problem I have with books like this is that I forget what I’ve learned even before I really need to put it into practice. What do you do to make what you’re reading stick?
I give Unglued a Highly Recommended.